Hey parenthood pals, glad to see you coming back for more or welcome if you are just tuning in. In case you didn’t get a chance to listen to episode 3, I am a proud NICU momma and a portion of my podcast journey will be discussing that because I want all parents to know they are not alone. So, with that said let’s dive right in.
One phrase I constantly heard during Aria’s first year was well she was born premature so.. you can fill in the blank but most of the time what followed was she will develop slower than most because she was born early. Ooo did that used to set me on edge. I used to think being born premature had nothing to do with her later development. She will develop at the same time as everyone else (even though she just couldn’t wait and made her appearance on the weekend of her baby shower) I refused to allow other people’s opinions to get to me because I knew what Aria was capable of. She was going to do big things and prove them all wrong. That is just what she did and continues to do.
So, if you are a NICU parent and people are giving you “advice” or what they feel is helpful trust your instincts. Your instincts will never steer you wrong. Now, there were times when I was concerned that Aria wouldn’t meet certain milestones. For instance, when we were anxiously awaiting her first steps the guidelines said 10-12 months. I remember she was 10 months old and showing no signs of wanting to walk. When we went to her doctor’s appointment, I asked her doctor about my concerns. He told me that those are just guidelines and not really concrete expectations. Low and behold Aria would start to walk around 11 months.
When you first have a baby, whether they are premature or not, it is in your DNA to worry and stress out about your child’s development. It is totally normal. Everyone understands this. But I promise you everything will be okay and everything will work out the way it is supposed to.
People will always have their opinions but you have a choice as to whether you believe or listen. Wow such a profound statement. You and only you have that choice. You can choose to believe and find truth in other’s opinions or you can simply listen and then go about your day. The best option is usually the last one.
So with that said, I want you to go out and make this day a great one. Go to the park, eat desert first, or just stay home and do nothing because you need to do more of what makes you happy and your child happy. Thank you for tuning in and I look forward to talking to your real soon. Bye for now, parenthood bestie.